*CHECKING IN: 10 parenting strategies to reduce your kids’ pandemic stress
in The Conversation
Parents are dealing with huge demands on their time and energy. Children may not be attending school or involved in regular activities. As the pandemic continues to wreak havoc on families, routines have collapsed, patience is wearing thin and self-care is a distant memory.
Decades of research have taught us that adversity during childhood has damaging effects on health and development. Many studies have shown that kids who have faced abuse, neglect and family conflict struggle forming friendships, have academic difficulties and face physical and mental health problems in adolescence and adulthood.
Fortunately, developmental scientists have identified ways to help children survive and thrive during times of adversity. The beneficial effects of protective and nurturing experiences are powerful antidotes to stress and adversity and prepare children to cope with hard times for years to come.
Families worried about possible long-term effects of pandemic-related disruption can learn from these proven strategies. Here are 10 ways parents can foster children’s resilience during challenging times. CLICK FOR MORE
THE TRANSFORMATIONAL POWER OF SMALL WINS
By The Ellevest Team 31, 2020
At Ellevest, we love to celebrate our community’s wins, big and small. We’re definitely here for the big milestones — if you just paid off all your debt, bought a house, started that business, got the promotion, we’re going to be right there celebrating with you, because that’s amazing.
But the small wins — the ones that usually go unnoticed, that you don’t usually see people bragging about on social media? We love those even more. Because they have transformational power.
It turns out that we aren’t as productive when we see our goals as too big. It overstimulates our brains, and we can’t deal with them as rationally. But when we focus on the specific things we can do to solve smaller problems, we’re not only able to achieve them, but we’re better able to learn from them and build on their success. Or, as researcher Karl Weick puts it, “small wins are controllable opportunities that produce visible results.” Photo: Ali Kazal
Who Were America’s Enslaved? A New Database Humanizes the Names Behind the Numbers
The public website draws connections between existing datasets to piece together fragmentary narratives
The night before Christmas in 1836, an enslaved man named Jim made final preparations for his escape. As his enslavers, the Roberts family of Charlotte County, Virginia, celebrated the holiday, Jim fled west to Kanawha County, where his wife’s enslaver, Joseph Friend, had recently moved. Two years had passed without Jim’s capture when Thomas Roberts published a runaway ad pledging $200 (around $5,600 today) for the 38- to 40-year-old’s return.
“Jim is … six feet or upwards high, tolerably spare made, dark complexion, has rather an unpleasant countenance,” wrote Roberts in the January 5, 1839, issue of the Richmond Enquirer. “[O]ne of his legs is smaller than the other, he limps a little as he walks—he is a good blacksmith, works with his left hand to the hammer.”
In his advertisement, Roberts admits that Jim may have obtained free papers, but beyond that, Jim’s fate, and that of his wife, is lost to history. CLICK FOR MORE
22 Ways to Fight the Gender Wealth Gap
By SALLIE KRAWCHECK in MAGAZINE
The gender pay gap gets a lot more play than the gender wealth gap: 145 times more results in a Google search, to be exact.
But the gender wealth gap is way more important.
The gender pay gap is how much money women earn in comparison to men. The gender wealth gap is how much money women have (or keep) in comparison to men. The gender pay gap for women “overall” is 82 cents to every white man’s dollar. But let’s be more specific. CLICK FOR MORE
There Are No Black People in Africa
by Shourya Agarwal the Medium Daily Digest
A few years ago, I had the pleasure of interacting with a Nigerian co-passenger on a long flight to London. Apart from sharing a common love for Bollywood, we also happened to share the same former colonial ‘masters.’ We chatted for hours about the systems of power in our respective post-colonial countries. During this discussion, I asked her how racism plays out in Africa, an ‘all-black’ continent. To this day, her answer remains the most ingenious thing someone has ever told me.
“You know that there are no black people in Africa,” she remarked in an absolutely calm manner. Initially, it sounded nonsensical to me. Of course, there are black people in Africa. There is a whole continent of black people in Africa. How could anyone not see that? CLICK FOR MORE
The Kamala Harris-Ruby Bridges Meme Is Powerful and Polarizing
by Ronda Racha Penrice
A meme of Vice President-elect Kamala Harris juxtaposed against the silhouette of an elementary-age Ruby Bridges has understandably gone viral after history was made last Saturday. For many people, the meme represents the powerful contributions of Black girls and Black women to our very concept of freedom and democracy. Others, however, question the appropriateness of linking the two.
The image, which is a T-shirt design created by artist Bria Goeller, bites off of a treasured Norman Rockwell painting depicting a six-year-old Bridges walking into her first day of school as the first Black child in the then all-White William Frantz Elementary in New Orleans in 1960. Bridges’ image is layered with an image of a high-heeled Harris walking with power and intent. The implied connection between the two trailblazers is that Bridges, as a child, greatly contributed to Harris’ glass-ceiling-shattering ascension to the office of vice president of the United States decades later. CLICK FOR MORE
by Patricia Cohen in Daily Pnut/New York Times
Hit hard by job losses and the pandemic’s effect on schooling and child care, American women face short-term difficulties and long-term repercussions.
For millions of working women, the coronavirus pandemic has delivered a rare and ruinous one-two-three punch.
First, the parts of the economy that were smacked hardest and earliest by job losses were ones where women dominate — restaurants, retail businesses and health care.
Then a second wave began taking out local and state government jobs, another area where women outnumber men.
The third blow has, for many, been the knockout: the closing of child care centers and the shift to remote schooling. That has saddled working mothers, much more than fathers, with overwhelming household responsibilities. CLICK FOR MORE
Photo Credit: Unsplash – Greg Rakozy